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Do You Need An Office At Home?

Office At Home

Office At Home

Do you need an office at home, or at least somewhere to work in peace on your computer? Not many people have the luxury of a spare room just for this purpose but there are ways to get around the problem.

If you are like me, you have had to work at the kitchen or dining table in the past. This is frustrating because you have to clear the space every time your table is needed. So, let me give you a few options that you will find will not break your budget.

If you do have a guest bedroom, then let’s face it, it probably doesn’t get used that often. Why not replace the bed with a sofa bed and put a desk in the room? This way, you can go and work in the room in peace, leave work in progress and close the door! You can still have guests but utilize the room to suit you.

Another great place for a desk, if the space is large enough, is your landing. Sometimes they can be a good size but are being used for nothing particularly useful. If you don’t want a desk, then a long table will look good but still serve as a desk. You can put up some shelving, and as you know, there are some great storage containers for your files, books, etc.

This may sound strange, but under the staircase is also another great space to tuck away a place to work. You will probably have to install some good lighting, but quite often, there is enough space for a small desk or table.

Well, there you go. A few ideas as to where you can create a small workspace and clear the clutter, when you are trying to work elsewhere in your home.

Jo Tempest.

How Men Fall In Love Isn’t A Mystery

Men In Love

Men In Love

How men fall in love is actually how women fall in love but maybe in a different order! Initially they meet a woman and feel attracted to her and then want to get to know her better.

Of course, there is a big difference in a guy who is only physically attracted to you and a guy who is physically and mentally attracted to you.

Physical attraction only will not lead to a fulfilling relationship, it will just eventually peter out. But physical attraction and the meeting of your minds has a good basis for something special.

In fact, if you ask a lot of guys why they love their partner, they will probably mention a physical attribute but the most common answer is that she makes him laugh!

How men fall in love is not an overnight miracle. I know some men have said that the first time they met their partner they knew she was the woman they were going to marry but it’s rare. Usually they do not realize they are falling in love, and then one day, quite a way into the relationship, they will wake up realizing this is the woman that they want to spend all their free time with.

Men are no different to women in that they also want to find someone to love, marry and have a family. In fact, women are better than men at being on their own. This is shown by divorce figures that when a guy gets divorced, he will remarry a lot quicker than a woman. A man always appears a strong figure but at the end of the day, they do not like coming back to an empty home. They like to feel nurtured and appreciated, in fact loved.

All couples have arguments but usually a man will want to get things resolved as quickly as possible, whereas a women will often drag it out for much longer. There is a wonderful saying that you should never go to sleep on an argument and I believe that is so true. Go to bed and make up, then you wake up to a new day feeling happy with each other.

There is no mystery in how men fall in love but the special magic you have to learn is how to keep them in love with you. Once you understand how a man thinks with regards to love, then you can be happy together for ever!

Signs You Are Getting Older!

Getting Older

Getting Older

As we get older , certain things happen to us apart from our bodies aging, our minds change and in many ways for the better. See what you think.

1. When I was a child, I thought having to take a nap was a punishment, now it is a treat.

2. Wouldn’t it be great if we could put ourselves in the dryer and come out two sizes smaller and wrinkle free.

3. Getting ‘lucky’ means walking into a room and remembering why I am there.

4. The biggest lie I tell myself is that ”I do not have to write that down, I will remember it.”

5. My people skills have improved, I no longer tolerate idiots.

6. I talk to myself because sometimes I need to hear expert advice.

7. It is still fun to jump in a puddle when wearing wellie boots.

8. Standing back and letting your children make their own decisions.

9. Not having to do piles of washing and ironing at the end of a busy day.

10. Finally, stop worrying about the world running out of wine as it is too terrible to contemplate!

So, there you have it, a few of my observations on getting older and of course as always, I like to look at life with my usual humour. It helps!!

Jo Tempest.

Flight 2017

Boarding on Flight 2017 has been announced.

Flight 2017

Flight 2017

Hope you have checked in only the BEST souvenirs from 2016 in your luggage.

The BAD and SAD moments if carried, MUST be thrown away in the garbage bins on arrival.

The flight will be 12 months long, so loosen your seat belt and RELAX.

The stop-overs will be:
+Health
+Love
+Joy
+Harmony
+Well-being
+Peace

Re-fueling will be at:
+Giving
+Sharing
+Caring

The following menu is offered and will be served during the flight:

+Cocktail of friendship
+Supreme of health
+Grating of prosperity
+Bowl of excellent news
+Salad of success
+Cake of Happiness

All accompanied by Bursts of Laughter

BUT remember, you will enjoy these meals as well as the journey a lot better if you talk, share, smile and laugh together. Sitting silent will make the flight seem much longer.

Wishing you an enjoyable trip on board FLIGHT 2017.

Jo Tempest.

A Jar Of Thankfulness

Thankfulness Jar

Thankfulness Jar

A New Year and new hopes for a better future are probably on the minds of many of us at this time.

Maybe you have had a hard year and feel it can only get better in the days to come. However hard life is, I am sure we all miss moments of joy between the stress of everyday life.

So, why not try a little experiment. Every day, write down at least one small note about something that has made you happy on that day and put it in a jar.

Make sure you do it every day, as there is always something that makes you smile, even if it is as simple as hearing the birds singing in your garden or a beautiful sky.

Then on New Year’s Eve one year later, sit with a glass of wine and read through all the notes you put in your jar.

I guarantee you will have forgotten most of them and they will make you realise that maybe life is not quite as hard as you thought it was.

Happy New Year and I wish much happiness to all you lovely readers.

Jo Tempest.

Would You, Wouldn’t You?

Would you Wouldn't you - Jo Tempest

Would You?

When I was back in England a couple of months ago, I had lunch with a very old friend of mine, Jonny. We go back a long way and always have great conversations. I am not sure quite how we got on the subject of dinner parties, but we did.

Then Jonny told me about a little game he used to introduce at his dinner parties until his wife told him he could not do it any more. It was causing a lot of heated discussions which probably carried on well after the different couples got home!

Here is the ‘game’, let’s see what you think. For the purpose of this article, ‘you’ is a female, but it works for either sex.

Okay, the scenario is that you have flown on a business trip to another city. After finishing your business, you head back to the airport. But when you check-in, you are told by the airline that the weather is so bad that your flight has been canceled. The good news is that the airline is going to put you up in a nice hotel and provide dinner.

You arrive at the hotel and there are a lot of other passengers there in the same situation as you. After leaving your bags in your room, you make your way down to the dining room, it is very busy and you cannot find a single table. Looks like you are going to have to double up.

You spot a guy around your age sitting on his own and you ask him if you could share his table. Of course, he says yes and you sit down. The first few minutes of the conversation are about what brought you both to the city, the weather and the delay.

Then you both chat about your personal life and how you are both in happy relationships. But as the evening goes on, you are aware that this guy is handsome, charming, interesting and there is definitely a sexual buzz between the both of you. You both seem to be delaying the meal to end but it has to eventually.

Now the moment of truth…..do you just say ‘Goodnight’ and go back to your lonely room feeling unsettled?

Or…..do you both respond to the chemistry that buzzes between you and go back to one of your rooms for a fantastic night of great sex?
You both know you will never see each other again as neither of you want anything else from the other person, just a guilt free night of fun.
Well, there you go….that is quite an interesting dinner party ‘Game’.

Jonny said he was never surprised by the re-actions and when couples were REALLY honest, it was interesting. Because I actually think most people, male or female, would let themselves experience what is on offer, as long as they see it for what it is, a one night secret liaison!

I think that most males confronted with this game will be honest and say yes, they would go for the one ‘night’. B

ut I think what surprises the men around the table is that many of the women say they would do the same. And that is what is interesting and probably causes some interesting after-dinner conversations.

So, would you, wouldn’t you?

Jo Tempest.

Walk Through Life With Your Eyes Wide Open

Walk Through Life

Walk Through Life

I enjoy my life as much as I can, as I really believe I have to make the best of it for as long as I can possibly can. I live in a beautiful Turkish village by the sea and have many great friends around me.

My life is still really tough at time, especially when it comes to finances but I am happy.

Of course I would like to see more of my sons and family than I do, but that depends on me selling a lot more books in my ‘Bad Girls Series’…..which of course I will!

So here are a few of my rules that I try to follow in my daily life:

  • Do not try to please everyone.
  • The only true wisdom is to realise that you do not personally have the answer to every problem.
  • Always smile…..it confuses people!
  • Being defeated is often a temporary condition; giving up is what makes it permanent.
  • You do not have to know where you are going as long as you are on your way.
  • A mother is not a person to lean on, but the person to make leaning unnecessary.
  • Choose your love, then love your choice.
  • Do not follow where the path may lead, but go instead where there is no path and leave your trail.
  • Walk through life with your eyes wide open.
  • Be careful how you treat people you meet on the way up, as you may well meet them on the way down!

I hope you have enjoyed my few words of wisdom!!!

Jo Tempest.

 

Husbands And Shopping!

Modeling a Peach Dream

Modeling a Peach Dream

This summer I am helping out my Turkish girlfriend, Aysun, in her waterfront boutique in the evenings. It is called Ayna, which means mirror. I asked Aysun how she chose that name.

She told me that a local older man commented on how the older female visitors to the village always looked so well groomed and must always have a mirror nearby…so the boutique gained its name.

We have lots of visitors to the boutique and many of the women come with their husbands. Now, at this point, I have to tell you that in my ‘previous married life’ I had a husband that hated shopping unless it was for him.

But I have now met a few here who actually seem to love it, especially when it comes to helping their wives choose clothes.

 

Aysun In Her Boutique

Aysun In Her Boutique

One couple came in and the husband promptly moved a chair near to the changing room. In his wife went with lots of outfits to try on, coming out to get his approva,l which was so enthusiastic.

He was generous with his praise and she chose three outfits. Having got dressed in her own clothes, her husband handed her some more clothes that he wanted to try and the process was repeated all over again.

They both left the boutique very happy having told us they had been married for 35 years, so maybe this is one of the secrets of a happy marriage.

Another evening, in came a couple and she was not really that interested but he was, picking out lots for her to try.

Ayna Boutique-Selimiye

Ayna Boutique-Selimiye

She reluctantly tried on his choices and looked great so he insisted on buying them for her. She later told us that he is always trying to buy things for her!

Then a couple of nights ago, a young handsome guy on his own walked into the boutique and picked up a beautiful Linen summer coat. He paid for it within minutes and told us he knew what suited his wife and wanted to give it to her that night at dinner. Lucky girl!

 

Turkish Beauties

Turkish Beauties

I am sure I will meet more of these wonderful husbands over the summer, along with the totally disinterested ones as well. So, to all you girls out there, wouldn’t it be great if we could CLONE these wonderful men? Or at least find one of our own!!
Jo Tempest.

Do Long Distance Relationships Work?

Long Distance Relationships

Long Distance Relationships

Are you trying to make a long distance relationship work? Well, it would seem many do if you look how many partners in a relationship work away from home. But for most people, the thought of a long distance relationship can be quite daunting.

It means that the partner left behind has to take responsibility for the home and maybe even children.

I think one of the biggest changes to a couple coping with this sort of situation is that the partner left behind often becomes more independent due to the extra responsibility.

They have to be very careful that when their partner returns every so often and tries to step back into their previous role, they do not have a problem with this.

They will work if you realize how your man’s brain works when it comes to his relationship with you. The one thing you can be absolutely sure of is that it doesn’t work like yours. The end result may be the same, but he won’t match you as to how he gets there! Understand his thinking and you can cope with any difficulties you may have as a couple.

When it comes to being separated regularly for long periods of time, you really have to trust each other. There is no way either of you can spend the time apart wondering what your partner is doing, or who with. If you can, have a trial period to see how it affects your relationship and see how you both have coped.

Money is usually the reason for these separations and it’s often worth persevering if it is going to improve your lives together for the future. Sometimes it can be much harder for the partner who has to work away. It might look fun but they are the ones who are isolated from their family and friends, not living in their home or having a normal routine.

Make sure you have plenty of discussions on the idea of long separations before committing yourselves. Both of you must agree, it cannot be the decision of only one of you. If it is, then the relationship will not work as one of you will be instantly unhappy with the situation. As long as it’s not going to go on indefinitely, then anything is bearable for a period of time.

It will work if you both want it to and you have a relationship worth preserving. You never know, it may even get stronger. I did it for a couple of years and we are still together ten years later!

 


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